4 months on T

Hey everyone!

Sorry I missed a post for last week. I was being lazy. Anyway, tomorrow is officially four months on testosterone. I added a comparison picture at the bottom of the post. The picture on the left is one week on T, and the one on the right is from this evening. I’m not sure that I look much different so far. I’m trying to decide/in denial about my hairline. It might have receded into a more masculine line. Let me know what you think!

My voice has dropped a good bit since I published my first comparison video. I still make a 20 second or so voice video every Friday. I might do another long comparison video when I get to 20 weeks.

This past week I went to a group meeting for trans people. It was nice to meet a bunch of people. I’ve really been missing hanging out with other trans people. I’m definitely going to miss that when I go back to Athens. I’m excited to meet all of my new “people” when I get back to school. I probably would have heard by now if there was another trans person at the law school, but maybe there will be another trans person in graduate school that will join the graduate LGBTQ organization…

Well this week is my last week at Atlanta Legal Aid. I’ve had a really great experience and learned a lot. This summer has flown by. I guess that’s what happens when you’re really busy. I’d like to do an externship at their Gwinnett office in the spring. I really hope that works out. This last week is going to be super busy/crazy, so wish me luck on finishing strong!

All the best,

Harris

If you’d like to donate to my top surgery fund, please go to the link below.

https://www.generosity.com/medical-fundraising/harris-top-surgery-fundraiser

PreT-4 months

Week 15 on T

Hey everyone!

Another eventful couple of  weeks have gone by. I went to a Stonewall Bar (the LGBTQ lawyers association) event two weeks ago. I had a good time and met some fun people, but I got the feeling that everyone there who didn’t already know me thought that I was a butch lesbian. That’s pretty frustrating, especially in that particular space. It’s not uncommon for even LGB people to do that though. I plan on emailing some of the executive members to ask that we start adding pronouns to name tags at events. I hope that will ameliorate the situation.

I was pleasantly surprised to see a couple UGA faculty and staff members at the event. I’m not sure why they were there, but it was nice to see them. I was really proud that one of them asked my friend who interns with me at Atlanta Legal Aid what her pronouns are. It really is that simple, folks. Maybe she would have asked anyway, but I’d like to think that my being a part of the UGA community had something to do with it.

I’ve had some issues with the last couple of shots. I’m not sure that I’ve been injecting deep enough into my muscle, so some of the T came out when I pulled out the needle. I don’t know if that has been affecting my changes or not. I think my voice drop has stalled out a bit. I should have a good drop sometime soon based on the timelines that other trans guys have been on. I’m hungry most of the time, but I’ve pretty much always been like that. Despite the fact that I’m currently fighting the urge to go to Sonic for a chocolate malt and some tater tots, I have been pretty good about nutrition lately. I’ve lost a little weight, which is good for my top surgery. The better shape I’m in, the better the result will be. I just ran across a picture that I took of the countdown that I have on my phone. It said seven months and 7 months and 11 days until the surgery. Now it’s at 5 months and 3 days. Time sure is flying.

As my sister Sarah said last week, it’s been a year since I came out to my family. Yesterday was one year since I made a public Facebook announcement. It certainly has been a year of mostly triumphs, and a few disasters to be honest. I’ve had many changes over the past year, from coming out to having people call me Harris to legally changing my name to starting testosterone. I have been overwhelmed with the amount of support from friends, family, and the UGA community. Overall it’s been a good year, and I’m excited to see what this next one holds.

All the best,

Harris

 

If you would like to help me finance my top surgery in December, please go to the website below. Top surgery is very expensive and not covered by my insurance. All donations are appreciated no matter the size!

https://www.generosity.com/medical-fundraising/harris-top-surgery-fundraiser

A Year Of Triumph, As Told by Sarah

Hello all!

Today Harris has been very busy with writing a paper so I offered to write his blog post for him and give a bit of family perspective. I am Harris’ little sister, Sarah. Here’s a little bit about me: I’m 19 years old, I am a sophomore at the University of West Georgia, and I plan on finishing the process of getting my major in ecology at the University of Georgia after this year.

Today, a little bit of celebration is in order. One year ago today I was making lasagna roll-ups when Harris got home. We were both sitting on the couch, and suddenly he started crying and said,

“Sarah I have to tell you something.”

I immediately assume someone close to us had passed away, and naturally I panicked. Then he said,

“I want to transition.” I’m just like,

“IS THAT IT!?!?! I thought someone DIED!” And I have fully supported his decision ever since. So today marks one year since Harris came out as transgender to me. And it’s been a year since I last made lasagna roll-ups. Coincidentally, we did eat Italian food for dinner tonight.

How has this impacted me? Not really at all. At first it was difficult to remember to use “Harris” and he/him/his pronouns, but I kind of expected that. Hell, to be honest I think this has brought Harris and me closer together. The hardest part of Harris coming out as transgender has easily been the fear for his safety. Suddenly I wanted to rush the process of the testosterone shots and the top surgery so Harris would more safely blend in with cisgender men. I had already heard of LGBTQ hate crimes. I did a research paper on transgender people and read about the horrors done by people who refuse to even try to understand. I read disheartening statistics about depression and suicide in the trans community. Just a couple of weeks ago I read about the devastating shooting in Orlando and thought, what if that had been Atlanta? What if Harris had been one of those victims? I think people would understand better if they had seen my mother crying for the victims of the Orlando shooting, asking herself the same questions. If I were in his shoes I would be so angry and bitter with the world, but here he is happy and finally living life as his authentic self.

So how is it being the cisgender sister of a transgender man? Terrifying. And a wonderful experience I wouldn’t trade for anything.

We are still short on funds to cover the expenses of Harris’ top surgery, and if you would like to make a contribution the link is included below. Please remember that as little as $10 or $15 adds up quickly, and of course all donations are incredibly appreciated.

https://www.generosity.com/medical-fundraising/harris-top-surgery-fundraiser

 

Harris